Updated: 5/26/2025
Planning a wedding is one of the most exciting — and sometimes overwhelming — times in a couple’s life. From choosing a venue to finalizing the guest list, it’s easy to get swept up in logistics and lose sight of what the celebration is really about: your relationship.
Between vendor meetings, budgeting, and family expectations, you might find yourselves talking more about timelines than dreams, or color palettes instead of connection. But here’s the truth: taking time for each other during wedding planning is essential.
Here’s how to intentionally carve out space for love, laughter, and connection during the wedding planning process.
1. Set “Wedding-Free” Time Each Week
Designate at least one day or evening a week where the word “wedding” is off-limits. Go for a walk, watch your favorite show, cook dinner together — anything that helps you reconnect without discussing seating charts.
Why it matters: You’re not just planning a wedding; you’re building a life. These moments remind you why you’re doing it all in the first place.
2. Turn Planning into Date Nights
Not all planning has to feel like a chore. Make cake tastings fun. Turn venue tours into mini getaways. Grab drinks after meetings with your photographer. Add intentional romance to these activities so they feel less like tasks and more like memories.
Pro tip: Take a photo during each “wedding date” and make a mini album of your planning journey.
3. Communicate Honestly, Even When It’s Hard
Stress can create tension, especially if your visions (or your families’) don’t align. Be open about how you’re feeling and give each other space to express concerns. Don’t brush frustrations under the rug — but don’t let them fester, either.
Practice: Weekly check-ins where you ask: How are we doing? What do you need from me this week?
4. Celebrate Small Wins
Finished your guest list? High five. Picked the flowers? Celebrate with your favorite dessert. Marking milestones together keeps the excitement alive and builds momentum.
Even simple acknowledgments like, “I love how we made that decision together,” can create connection in the process.
5. Prioritize Your Relationship, Not Just the Event
A perfect wedding means little without a strong partnership behind it. If planning starts taking a toll on your connection, press pause. Whether it’s a weekend away or a morning coffee ritual, prioritize moments that feed your relationship.
Remember: The goal isn’t just to plan a beautiful day — it’s to nurture a love that lasts far beyond it.
6. Laugh a Lot
When things go sideways (and they will), find humor in the chaos. Forgot to book the DJ? Laugh it off and figure it out together. Laughter can be your secret weapon in staying grounded and close.
Final Thoughts
Wedding planning is a season — intense, emotional, and filled with both joy and challenges. But it’s also a unique opportunity to grow closer as a couple. By intentionally making time for each other, you’re not only creating a meaningful event — you’re laying the foundation for the marriage that follows.
So in the midst of Pinterest boards and to-do lists, don’t forget to hold hands, share kisses, and say “I love you.” Often.
After all, you are what the wedding is all about.
Photo Credit: Wilde Company