During the wedding-planning process, there are several significant moments you’ll look forward to, like the first look, exchanging vows, or your first dance. But some of the most memorable parts of your wedding day may come from the smaller, more spontaneous traditions, like your maid of honor’s last-minute pep talk, your dad’s emotional hug before the ceremony, or your wedding guests cracking up as you and your new spouse play the Wedding Shoe Game.
If you’re looking to add a fun, lighthearted activity to your celebration, the Wedding Shoe Game is a guaranteed crowd-pleaser. It’s playful, silly, and surprisingly revealing—not to mention a great way to entertain your guests and share more about your relationship dynamic. Below, we’ll walk you through how to play the game, when to include it, and the best questions to ask.
What Is the Wedding Shoe Game?
The Wedding Shoe Game is a quick and humorous question-and-answer activity played by the couple in front of their guests. Seated back-to-back, each person holds one of their own shoes and one of their partner’s shoes. A host then reads a series of questions—everything from “Who takes longer to get ready?” to “Who said ‘I love you’ first?”—and the couple raises the shoe of the person who best fits the answer. The fun comes in seeing where answers align…and where they don’t!
When to Play the Wedding Shoe Game
Most couples choose to play the Wedding Shoe Game during their reception, typically after the speeches or just after cake cutting. This is a great way to fill a lull between dinner and dancing or to keep guests engaged during transitions.
Timing Tip: Don’t wait too long into the evening to play. Once your guests hit the dance floor, pulling them away for a game can disrupt the party vibe your DJ or band has worked hard to build.
Playing the Shoe Game at Other Wedding Events
If your reception timeline feels packed, the Wedding Shoe Game can also be played at other wedding-related events. It’s especially fun as:
- A surprise activity at the bridal shower (once your partner shows up at the end!)
- An icebreaker at the rehearsal dinner
- A way to welcome guests during the welcome party for a destination or weekend wedding
No matter when you choose to play, the Shoe Game brings a fun mix of laughter and love to the celebration.
How to Play the Wedding Shoe Game: 4 Key Steps
This game is simple to set up and needs almost no props, just two chairs and your shoes!
Step 1: Arrange the Setup
Place two chairs back-to-back in the center of the dance floor or wherever your guests can see. You and your partner should sit down, facing away from each other. Then, each of you takes off your shoes and swaps one, so you’re holding one of your own shoes and one of your partner’s.
Step 2: Pick a Host
Choose someone confident, funny, and comfortable with a microphone. This could be your DJ, a wedding party member, or a friend who knows you both well. Bonus points if they add their own flair to the delivery.
Pro tip for guests or wedding party members: Make sure the couple wants to play this game before you plan it!
Step 3: Start the Questions
To get the game started, the host begins by reading questions about the couple—like “Who made the first move?” Plan for about 20 to 50 questions total, with a brief pause after each one to give the couple time to answer and the guests a moment to laugh, cheer, or react to the responses.
Step 4: Raise the Shoes
Instead of answering aloud, you’ll each raise the shoe of the person who fits the description. If the question is “Who’s more likely to cry during a movie?” and you think it’s your partner, you raise their shoe. If it’s you, raise your own.
50 of the Best Wedding Shoe Game Questions to Ask
Here’s a list of fun, sweet, and sometimes spicy questions to include:
- Who said “I love you” first?
- Who made the first move?
- Who is more romantic?
- Who plans the best date nights?
- Who cried first during the ceremony?
- Who always thinks they are right?
- Who is more dramatic?
- Who is the bigger baby when sick?
- Who is the most stubborn?
- Who is funnier?
- Who chooses where you go for dinner?
- Who is the better cook?
- Who has the sweetest tooth?
- Who is the pickiest eater?
- Who is more likely to suggest takeout?
- Who does the household chores?
- Who is the cleanest?
- Who is the messier one?
- Who takes the longest to get ready?
- Who takes the longest showers?
- Who has the better hair?
- Who has a better fashion sense?
- Who takes up more space in the closet?
- Who looks the best today?
- Who is the bigger shopaholic?
- Who has the best taste in films?
- Who has the best taste in music?
- Who’s more likely to binge-watch a show?
- Who sings in the shower?
- Who loves reading the most?
- Who looks after the pets more?
- Who wants more pets?
- Who wakes up first?
- Who stays up the latest?
- Who talks the most?
- Who is the better driver?
- Who’s more likely to get a speeding ticket?
- Who’s more likely to get lost even with GPS?
- Who’s more likely to survive a zombie apocalypse?
- Who’s more adventurous?
- Who makes all the plans?
- Who is more organized?
- Who is more likely to plan your next vacation?
- Who is more likely to stay late at work?
- Who is the early bird?
- Who is more outgoing?
- Who is more likely to cry during a movie?
- Who is better at keeping secrets?
- Who is the first to apologize?
- Who was more nervous on the first date?
Whether you’re looking to add a moment of laughter to your wedding day or want to let guests in on the quirks of your relationship, the Wedding Shoe Game is a fun, low-effort activity with high-impact charm. It’s a playful reminder that while you may not always be in sync, you’re still in this together.
Ready to laugh, blush, and maybe even surprise each other? Grab your chairs (and shoes)—it’s game time!